Dilemma

I need to ask something.

How do you know when someone is selfish?

When someone thinks of themselves and not think of others?

I don't really understand.

I've been thinking about it for the past 1 year but I can't really find an answer.

Situation:

If you ask your friend to do something for you, and your friend doesn't want to...

You get angry.

Is your friend selfish because he/she doesn't want to help?

OR

Are you selfish because you want someone to do something for you?

Does anyone get what I'm trying to say?

Because your friend can be selfish if he/she doesn't want to take his/her time off to help you. Your friend can be self-centered

OR you can be the selfish one because when other people are not doing what you request, you get angry. So in a way, you're just thinking for yourself.

So now, who is the selfish one?

I can't seem to find any answer.

Some people may think it depends on what is the 'thing' you request.

But does it really matter?

Big or small things, they are still favours you do for your friend.

That's why when people do not want to help me I won't dare to say that my friend is selfish. Because honestly I may be the selfish one.

And yet in the past I've always been blaming the other party to be selfish.

HOW SELFISH I WAS. to be blaming others and not blaming myself.

Now I would like to talk about friendships...

Speaking of favours,

does anyone realise we've always been setting limits for the amount of favours we should do for our friends?

Like, if I helped you like over 10 times and you just helped me twice, I shouldn't help you anymore.

Lol what happened to friendships?

What happened to people being kind and generous?

What happened to friends always helping you when you're in need?

But I can't blame anyone.

I know I'm the type of person that likes to help people.

Over the years I've always been helping.

Not that I expect people to return my favours.

But when you've always been helping for years,

you realise that no one is there to help you.

Not only me. I know a lot of us are like that.

Not because people do not want to help us,

but it seems like, we're not even appreciated, at all.

Idk how to put this.

It's like you're a doormat, letting people step all over you, but yet you don't mind

Cos you're a doormat.

It's like helping too much that you're not even helping yourself.

:(( I'm having so much dilemmas these few days.

Ok now I'm gonna rant on plastic surgery. It's gonna be short.

WHY PEOPLE NO ACCEPT PLASTIC SURGERY?

Not that I wanna do plastic surgery but it's just a way or method for people to look nicer and gain confidence! What's wrong with that?

Which girl doesn't wanna look nice?

Are you telling me you don't want to look pretty?

If so then why do you all pose or make act cute faces in pictures???

Why do you put braces?!

plastic surgery is just like braces ok.

Both makes a certain aspect of you look nicer.

If you're so against people looking better than I suggest you should live with your crooked teeth for the rest of your life.

Stop being such a hypocrite ok.